| There is such
a thing as emotion management and it is a hallmark of adulthood. That
said, this does not mean that someone has to suppress emotions.
Emotions are like needing to go to the
bathroom; both are part of being human and are going to occur. What
matters is how you manage both.
Although emotions can be messy and
cause pain, they are also necessary. Emotions form the bridge to other
people, they enable us to laugh at a joke, and they imbue life with
meaning.
When feeling depressed, thinking only
makes it worse; doing something and engaging in some kind of activity is
key to feeling better.
Anxious people tend to over-think and
over-analyze; this is not a compliment, is not an indication of how
intelligent someone is, not does it improve coping. In fact, such
over-thinking tends to become increasingly inaccurate and only serves to
generate more internal stress.
People who see themselves as
"realists" are almost always pessimists and negative.
Realistic, fact-based thinking is accurate and balanced, including both
the negatives and the positives and neutrals in any given situation.
In fact, 99% of the time, the facts in
and of themselves are usually not as negative and bad as the judgments
people make about them.
Life is 10% of what happens to us and
90% attitude.
Unfortunately, bad things do happen to
good people. How one deals with the bad things is what matters. Anyone
can deal with good stuff.
Happiness is a choice and requires
self-acceptance and an attitude of gratitude.
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